Thinking while blogging, people can’t be defined

In thinking of all the ways I classify myself, I also think of how I choose to reveal only certain aspects of who I feel I am to different people. I believe I try to read the person I’m talking to in search of how much they can handle. And then there are situations or places where I put on a certain persona to everyone I see there. The reasons vary from wanting to fit in, ideciding if it’s socially acceptable in the particular environment, sharing my personal life on a need to know basis etc. Even though I may have 15 personas (just a random guess), I like to think that I am not lying to anybody about who I am.

It is all me. Every one of my masks if you will is non-judgemental, compassionate, caring, sensitive, unconfident and spiritual.

People really can’t be defined according to groups they identify with. People are very complex (as we well know). Can we ever really completely know a person? Do we even really completely know ourselves? I think we hope to keep learning ourselves and I know that we are constantly changing according to our experiences and thoughts.

If you like a person, do you like them because of their personal qualities?

non-judgemental, compassionate, caring, sensitive, unconfident and spiritual

Or because of the groups they identify with?

Mother

Wife

Teacher

Christian

Dog Lover

Butterfly collector

Angel Believer

Has danced on a bar table

Donates to many charities

Book lover

Music lover

Has been unfaithful

Is bisexual

Afraid of mice

Likes to Crochet

Likes to Cross-stitch

What if you share 10 of the 15 groups with this friend but then suddenly find out that there are another 5 that you don’t identify with or feel are wrong?

Do you still like this person or does it change your opinion?

For every person, there would be a different answer to this question so I’m not really posing these questions. In fact I really don’t know what my point is…lol…I guess I’m just thinking out loud.

Just Breathe

During the year of 2006 when my marriage was at its worse and so was my depression, I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful friend online. It was her who carried me through when I couldn’t carry myself. It was her voice and her words, through the phone and emails. One of the things she used to say to me was “Just breathe…” and it really helped. And every time I heard this song by Anna Nalik, I would think of her and feel better.

The song became less popular and hasn’t been on the radio as much and for a while her and I didn’t really talk and our friendship was sort of lost. I always remember her in my heart though and luckily over the past several months her and I have been rebuilding our friendship. I’m very thankful for this and she knows this.

Well yesterday, I heard this song twice while I was in the car for just a short time. Then last night I had a crazy dream and I only remember bits and pieces but I remember she and many other people were there. She was line dancing and if you knew her that’s kinda funny! LOL I remember at one point there was a piece of paper and she pointed and it was a graphic with the words “Just Breathe!”

When I remembered this today, I figured it was the thought of the day since I’ve been so grumpy. So here I sit, taking a break and breathing, while listening to one of my all time favorite songs.

Thankful for friends, the angels who help us fly when our wings are broken…

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OMG!!! I did not make that graphic and when I searched friends/angels this is what came up. Look at the name.